prayzyethelord:

whyonlythree:

“Do not awaken or arouse love until it so desires.” Song of Songs

As a Christian teenager who attends church and grew up in a stable home, one of the most common things I hear from adults is to save sex for marriage. When I went through the little purity course, I made up my mind to save my first kiss as well. I’ve stayed true so far, and generally have made respectable decisions in dealing with guys.

However, there’s a topic that the sex education and Love Can Wait courses have skipped. Its called emotional virginity.

Studies been proven that men are more inclined to the physical side of a relationship, while women are emotional. We are told countless times to keep our hands off each other until marriage. But who saves us from giving too much of our hearts away? How far is too far when it comes to our emotions?

When my attraction to boys first flared, I was sure to tell them I was a good girl. There would be nothing more than hand holding in our relationship. But when it came to texting late at night and spilling out my heart to them, I had no boundaries. I gave too much away too quickly. And when the relationship ended, I returned defeated, my gown still white as snow. But my heart was dashed to pieces because I had given it away too quickly.

I have come to believe that, since girls are more emotionally involved in a relationship than men, they run a larger risk of giving away too much of their emotional virginity. I believe I have invested too much into multiple relationships. Love I gave that I can never give back. In the same way that my friends can’t take their actions back.

Another thing: While boys look at pornography to fill their void, girls turn to chick flicks and Nicholas Spark novels. While I believe its ok to watch or read these works with caution, I also believe its a sin to use these things as some sort of catalyst for our emptiness. Its emotional pornography, and its tearing us apart. These things of the world cant satisfy our wanting to be wanted. Turn to Jesus, daughters of God, and be filled.

These thoughts have been formulating in my head just recently. Its time I pinned them down and started seriously meditating on this.

Begin discussion.

I knew that I’m not the only one who thinks of this; been floating around in my head, too. Thank youu.